|Todos Santos, December 2014.|
It's important to show kindness to yourself as well as to others. There are a multitude of ways you can show yourself some love. Here are a few:
1. Say No to a holiday obligation.
Nobody finds you fun to be around if you arrive at all 20 of your scheduled holiday events out of breath and exhausted from all of the holiday fuss. You don't have to attend them all. Heck, you don't have to attend any if you don't feel like it.
2. Buy yourself a gift.
While you are no doubt buying a lot of gifts for others, why not buy yourself something you've been lusting after for a while? After all, who knows better what might trip your trigger than you? I just so happen to have an online shop full of my handmade art glass jewelry that might just do it for you. My holiday bench sale is ON and if you'd like to get free shipping on your order click here.
|Speckled acorn pendant. Now available in my online shop.|
The short days of winter are no time to feel deprived. Fortunately, you can make healthier versions of your favorite comfort food, and not pay the price at the scale.
Of course if you're not concerned about calories, why not make this favorite of ours?
|Leek Bread Pudding. To. Die. For.|
Even a half hour spent in candlelight, reading a favorite book while listening to soft music can recharge your batteries and help you get centered again. Personally, I love to slip into the jacuzzi outside under the stars, and breathe the cool night air in as my muscles and brain get back into a relaxed state.
5. Take a nap.
Well, those of you who are able to do this, more power to you! Even short naps can be restorative, and help you feel more powerful as you check off those items on your never ending holiday to do list. Need some help with this one? Here are some napping tips.
6. Pare down.
It's easy to go overboard during the holidays. Attending every party. Sending cards to everyone you have ever known. Getting that perfect family portrait. Buying the Perfect Gift for each person on your list. Doing All The Things. But who's keeping score here besides you? Nobody expects you to do all of these things, so why kill yourself trying? Simplify.
7. Spread that Holiday Spirit out through the year.
This one might be hard for you to hear. What's so magical about doing the Usual List of Things at this particular time versus all different times throughout the year? Why not make special food in March, for example, or invite your favorite friends over for a little party in June? The more I honor the spirit of the holidays all throughout the year the more relaxed I am when December comes. Struggling to envision this? Here are some tips.
8. Express Gratitude.
Whether you do it in private, or acknowledge it in front of others, expressing thankfulness for the good things in your life is powerful medicine. As in #7, this one is best practiced all throughout the year.
9. Find Serenity
There is comfort to be found in letting go. This applies to things, people, and activities that no longer serve you well. It's freeing to realize how many things we try to control but in actuality have no control over. Here is the serenity prayer:
"God, grant me the serenity,
to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference."
We like to do this on the Solstice. Each person writes things they would like to let go of (things they realize they cannot control) on a separate paper. Each is tossed into the fire as a silent prayer is said.
10. Focus on those who have less.
Sometimes doing things for others less fortunate than ourselves helps to put everything in perspective. In the past we have felt enormous gratitude from helping out at soup kitchens, supporting toy drives for underprivileged children, and finding people to spend time with during the holidays who have no family around. This one helps you feel good by giving, and by finding gratitude for the blessings you have.
For more inspiration on how to treat yourself with kindness over the holidays, visit this link.